January 30, 2013
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While watching Sleepless in Seattle for maybe the billionth time, I realized my problem. Rosie O'Donnell tells Meg Ryan the words that I so needed to hear. "A movie! That's your problem! You don't want to be in love. You want to be in love in a movie." And yes, that is exactly it. I don't want to be in love. I want to be in love in a movie. Like a movie. But sadly, I am a real person and so, I cannot ever be in love in a movie.
Why can't love like that exist? You know, with the big gestures and the fate and the soul mates? Why can't a man and a woman overcome all obstacles and let love win? Reality is too harsh. It strips things down and makes them bare, which is no where near as attractive as movies make life seem. Even the negative, sad montages are glamorized and glorified so that whenever you're in the backseat of a car, listening to your iPod, and that sad song comes on, you immediately shift into "sad, movie mode" where you stare dejectedly out the window, pretending that some great tragedy has befallen. You know what I'm talking about. What is that? Why do we pretend? Maybe it's because that right after the sad montage, the problem always gets resolved and the boy runs in the rain and the girl forgives the boy and after everyone dries off, they live happily ever after. Preferably after some momentous kiss or promise. It's funny though how characters only get together at the end of movies. How do we know if they stay together? What if something comes up down the road and splits them apart? What if she gets cancer and dies young? Does the story start again, but with a different leading lady? I need to stop asking so many questions.
Meg Ryan also says something about having fantasies about a man she's never met. She knows it's crazy and she should let it go, but what if she could have done something? Does she want to go her entire life just dreaming? The difference between fate and destiny is the power we have to change it and whether or not we have that courage to do so. I hope I have that courage. So far, it doesn't look very good.
It's warm, but it's raining. Cue sad montage.
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